Friday, July 3, 2009

Day 1 – The Dare Part

Hello Everyone,

Today’s Dare

The first part of this dare is fairly simple. Although love is communicated in a number of ways, our words often reflect the condition of our heart. For the next day, resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.

Well last night at around 8 o’clock my Day 1 Dare would be over. Everything went well. Until around 7:30 hubs came out and showed me his work boots.

His feet has been hurting and yesterday he discovered why. His heels on his boots are gone. So  he needs a new pair of boots. Fine.

So I say we’ll order you some tonight. No, no, no – he can wait till tomorrow. Okay. But then after several more interruptions later I tell him let’s just order your boots tonight. Okay. I am being patient.

We are on the internet. ‘Look up Georgia boots,’ he tells me. So I do. We are looking at the different styles when he asks a question.

Him: Are they American made?

Me: I’m not sure let me read here a minute.

Him: Are they American made?

Me: I am reading to see. (Patience, patience I say to myself)

Him: Well I don’t want them if they’re not American made.

Me: They are American made.

So we order his boots. ‘Well when will they be here.’ ‘Larry they are closed right now, I will call in the morning to see when they will be here. It doesn’t say on the website.’

A lot more questions later and me feeling exasperated – but I did good. I was so frustrated by the time we got done. I never did get back to what I was doing as we talked about the days events and then it was time to turn in.

It really would have been an easy dare for me usually. But I really had to work at not letting my frustration turn into anger during our internet time. There were a lot of times I wanted to snap if you’d just be patient I can tell you every thing you want to know. But like I said, I did good. Until next time

Have a blessed day,

Thursday, July 2, 2009

Day 1 – Love Is Patient

Hello Everyone,

It’s funny when you are reading something and it is so familiar to you. There has been a lot of times that I flipped out over something little. Lots of times that I made a big issue out of nothing. With just a little bit of patience an argument could have been stopped. Ugly words would have not been said.

I am liking this.

The Dare

Resolve to demonstrate patience and to say nothing negative to your spouse at all. If the temptation arises, choose not to say anything. It’s better to hold your tongue than to say something you’ll regret.

Hmm okay so it is a work day today. This morning we did our usual thing. Getting up at 4 a.m. making his lunch. Telling him I love you and be careful as he is walking out the door. So the rest will continue tonight after we both get off of work.

Tomorrow I will post how the rest of today’s dare went.

This morning I told my hubs about the book. I said I wasn’t going to get it because we had such a good marriage. But when I read even if you have a good marriage it is a journey worth taking I bought it.

He said ‘There’s nothing wrong with our marriage, is there?’

I said ‘No, I just said that it said it would be a journey worth taking.’ (he obviously wasn’t listening)

He said ‘Well it’ll pass the time I suppose.’

Pretty close to what I thought he would say. lol

Until tomorrow

Have a blessed day!

Wednesday, July 1, 2009

My Love Dare

Hello Everyone,

Well when I first looked at this book I thought I don’t need to read that. I bought it anyway. I didn’t think I needed to read it because I have a happy marriage. We have been together for 16 years and we love each other deeply and we are happy. I can state that confidently because hubs and I often discuss it.

We have seen several friends who have been married for over 20 years end their marriages in the last few years. So because of this we have often talked about our marriage, our happiness and our future. I can honestly say that my hubs loves me and that I am first in his life. I can also say that communication is a big part of our marriage. We are each other’s best friend and we tell each other everything.

That doesn’t mean that we don’t argue and fight. That doesn’t mean that when I get really angry I leave. I usually end up at Wal-Mart lol. If it’s really intense, I need that cooling off time. Sometimes I stay and say ugly and hurtful things. So does he. So I know my marriage isn’t perfect. I know this because neither one of us are perfect. No one has the perfect marriage.

I will be telling him tonight that I am reading this book. I know that he won’t want to. His response will be ‘Why? We don’t need no book. Our marriage is great.’ And I agree with him. But after I read the back  cover “Whether your marriage is hanging by a thread or healthy and strong, The Love Dare is a journey you need to take”. I decided to take the journey.

So when I bought this book I decided I was going to read it after I was done with my Summer Bible study group. But I have decided after finding Toni’s Love Dare site that I would start it tomorrow. So my journey begins tomorrow – hope you’ll be stopping by.

Have a blessed day!